Free Best Living with an Alcoholic Husband: A true account of living with and without a husband addicted to alcoholAuthor Cherry Parker – Schematicwiringdiagram.co

To me the sound of a metal bottle capunscrewing against a glass bottle isthe worst sound in the worldTo my husband it is heaven This true account is my story My personal observations and feelings as I lived with a husband addicted to alcohol, on a roller coaster ride of hope and despair, love and loathing, embarrassment and anger, dreading each day I was isolated, confused and upset that I was not doing enough to help himYou become worn down by the windscreen wiper mentality The good guy, bad guy, drinking, not drinking, telling the truth, lying, worrying, hope, please not this time, maybe he will stop or maybe I am going mad perhaps it is meThis is the life I have written about How I slowly came to realize that I was always waiting, wanting him to change Trying to change him Wrong It had to be me who changedI describe how I reached these conclusions, the choices I made and acted upon, to improve my life Without implementing change, everything will stay the same as it is nowIn writing this book I hope that some one else who lives with an alcoholically dependant person can be helpedWe are not going madWe did not cause the problemWe alone cannot change the alcoholicWe must change ourselves in order to get our life backTable of ContentsIntroduction Was he always like That How it is NowThe Windscreen Wiper EffectPutting the Alcoholic first AlwaysThe False FrontA Life Dominating ProblemThey Belittle and EmbarrassSomeone to Talk toBoth partners become IllMy Concrete UmbrellaTwo Inseparable PersonalitiesEnergy or the Lack of ItIsolationDetox Units and HospitalsWhen is a Good Time AntabuseCancerObligationThey Must be ResponsibleWhat will They Think Hospital StaffWe Don t UnderstandTrustActing a PartNot All the AnswersIs This as Good as it Gets Video RewindSlow RealizationFirst Small StepsBeginning to ChangeContentmentQuestionsKeep Seeking the TruthFurther ChangeNo MoreMore on ValuesDetachmentTo Leave or To StayCommunicationThe Two ChoicesTo Return or NotWill He Die Without Me My Clear ConsciousWhether They Change or NotYes I Have a ProblemIndividual ResponsibilityAlcoholics are Not FoolsMaintaining the Fa adeAAOur GodThe True PersonalityAl AnonLet Go and Let GodAccept and LearnSickness or Disease Cancer and DiabetesA Tangled MessA Foot in Each CampThe WallThey Do ChangeSomething to AvoidThe TrapNow Not in the FutureThose Two DaysLooking After YourselfThe Heavy Lump of DreadA JournalProfessional PeopleDeclutterSimplify Years is a Long TimeBooksFuture HelpAA is not for everyoneFurther ReadingThe Final Chapter


10 thoughts on “Living with an Alcoholic Husband: A true account of living with and without a husband addicted to alcohol

  1. Arthea J. Larson Arthea J. Larson says:

    Skeptical at best As a mental health professional married to an alcoholic, I can relate to all the pain, anger and helplessness felt by the author Her bitterness, however, comes through in a strong way that often turned me off because it increased my own resentments While it felt cathartic to read at times, mostly I wanted her to find peace in spite of her circumstances As a member of Al Anon, I have found it to have greatly improved my quality of living whether my husband is actively drinki Skeptical at best As a mental health professional married to an alcoholic, I can relate to all the pain, anger and helplessness felt by the author Her bitterness, however, comes through in a strong way that often turned me off because it increased my own resentments While it felt cathartic to read at times, mostly I wanted her to find peace in spite of her circumstances As a member of Al Anon, I have found it to have greatly improved my quality of living whether my husband is actively drinking or not I think the steps make for better living for ANYONE, addictions in their families or not The Steps are sound practice any way you look at them My husband, too, has great disdain for AA although his friends who became sober all did it through AA He is as yet unwilling to try anything that would have him to stop drinking I firmly believe AA is the right combination as a mental health professional and as a wife of an actively drinking husband But his path is his own As for research, all I know is the alcoholics I know that are sober did it through AA And Al Anon helps me stay sane in dealing with those who are not sober All civilizations have believed in something bigger than themselves From the Atman Within of Hinduism to God I believe we were built to seek an explanation of somethingin control than we are Just my opinion after years of being mad at God for a myriad of reasons


  2. Lana B Lana B says:

    Meaty Albeit a Short ReadThis book is written by a woman who has decades of experience married to an alcoholic She finds herself and sees the exposure to an alcoholic s abusiveness as something she cannot continue going through time with She needed space to be herself I would ve loved to have readto see her steps and struggles as she made the separation from her husband and to know in detail what it felt like to be free, the good and the bad Regardless, this is a solid read and a be Meaty Albeit a Short ReadThis book is written by a woman who has decades of experience married to an alcoholic She finds herself and sees the exposure to an alcoholic s abusiveness as something she cannot continue going through time with She needed space to be herself I would ve loved to have readto see her steps and struggles as she made the separation from her husband and to know in detail what it felt like to be free, the good and the bad Regardless, this is a solid read and a beginning point for arming yourself with experience and education, if you re struggling Great read Proactive for women


  3. Linda C Johnson Linda C Johnson says:

    Very helpful Gives insight to living with a spouse WITH A DRINKING ProblemLike this book I like her nonsense approach to handling your life admits the world.of an alcoholic Very good read


  4. Maggie Bonner Maggie Bonner says:

    Worth a read Like reading my life So many things I can relate to unfortunately A lot of good tips on looking after ourselves I would definitely recommend to anyone living with active alcoholism.


  5. karen karen says:

    Dead on I feel like I wrote this about my life It s been too long now to change my life though I wish I had.


  6. Deborah L. Johnson Deborah L. Johnson says:

    Living with chronic alcoholismThis book reminds me so much of my own life Trying so hard to help my alcoholic husband only to have him start drinking again after periods of sobriety I m now at the point where I want to have some peace and not always worrying if he will stay sober This book has helped lessen the overwhelming fear I have of leaving him It s not what I want but may be the only way to have some type of life free from the chronic anxiety Thank you so much.


  7. Christine Jolley Christine Jolley says:

    Nice to hear another perspective but framed in the format of giving advice which dilutes everything and a big no no in the al anon world It would have been better to only tell her story and let it stand for itself would have been farinspirational.


  8. EVIE JOHNS EVIE JOHNS says:

    Very true real life understanding Good book didn t realize others dealt with the same things good advice and understanding inside the walls being married to an alcohol